Skull Caps

Radar’s crew in his old squadron was very tight.  They love flying together, and all got along really well.  They also tracked several subs under rainbows… so that became their crew symbol.  Radar asked me during deployment if I could make his crew skull caps to wear on their missions – in rainbow colors!  It took me a while to figure out how to make them, but I think they turned out pretty well, and the crew ended up wearing them on all their missions!

My inspiration came from this website, but I had to stew on the project for a bit before I decided exactly how I wanted to put my own together.  These caps would work well for under a helmet (such as for a pilot or riding a motorcycle) or as a cap for a nurse in the OR, and they’re relatively simple to put together.

The trickiest part of making something like this is sewing on a curve.  I found a great tutorial here, but unfortunately it only works with a perfect circle, which this is not!  But I found that with a lot of pinning, I could make it work pretty well.  I also opted to use my serger so that all the internal seams were finished, but I’ll include instructions for using a sewing machine as well.

The directions below are to make the whole cap out of one fabric – but you’ll see, I used different colors for the bands so that each crew member would have their own.  You could use different fabric for any of the pieces, or keep it all the same… whatever strikes your fancy.


Start by cutting out all of your pieces.  Cut 2 of the pattern above, but cut them as mirror images (either cut one with the pattern right side up and one with it upside down, or fold your fabric and cut both out at once).  Cut a piece 5″x18″ for the top of the cap.  The last cut is a 2.5″x35″ piece, but you can also make it out of two 2.5″x18″ pieces sewn together; press this piece in half lengthwise.  You can make the band the same color or a different color if you want it to be more whimsical.


The band here is actually 2 pieces sewn together

Serge the short straight edges of the side pieces.  If you don’t have a serger, you can fold the edge to the wrong side 1/4″ and stitch in place.


This finishes off the back of the cap

The next step is the hardest.  Pin the 5″x18″ piece  along the curve of one of the side pieces, right sides together.  Repeat for the other side.  Then start at the front of one of the pinned curves, serge from front to back on the side piece, curve around the tail of the top piece, and go back up towards the front on the other side – but be CAREFUL!  You definitely cannot let those pins go through your serger!  If you don’t have a serger you sew in the same order (front of one side, around the back, and back up the other side), but turn the edges in on the top piece as you go around it.

Cap Construction

Left: Starting the pinning process. Second: One side pinned. Third: Both sides pinned. Right: Serged.

The last step is adding the band to tie it!  Turn the cap right side out and pin the pressed band seam raw edges together, lining up the center of the band with the center of the cap.  Serge from the tip of one side of the band around to the tip of the other, curving at the ends to make them a point; tie a knot in the tail on each side and trim the threads.  On a sewing machine, turn the edges of the band in and stitch all the way around.

Completed Caps

Left: The serging make the inside nice and finished. Center: The cap is done. Right: 12 of them!

I made 12 for Radar’s crew, in all different colors so they would know whose is whose.

Model Cap

Sorry for the terrible selfies! I pretty much never take them 😛

These caps whip together in about 10 minutes, so you can make a bunch!


Buying A House Alone

I’m back from my hiatus!  Before I get back to my craftiness, I wanted to write a post for my fellow milspouses about the process I went through buying our house while Radar was deployed, before I forget all the great advice I have to share 🙂

Last deployment, I bought a car.  I walked into the Honda dealership with my power of attorney in hand, and they never questioned me (in fact, I don’t even know if they made a copy of it!).  It was made much easier by the USAA car-buying service – if you are in the military, I highly recommend using this tool to cut out the haggling process!

This deployment, we knew going in that I would likely be buying a house while Radar was gone – we didn’t want to lose out on the perfect house, even if it was available earlier than his orders were cut.  Once again, I was armed with my POA to help me get the job done.

To start off with, here’s another plug for USAA – they have a program called Movers Advantage, where they’ll set you up with a certified (as in, they take 2 classes a year and have to jump through 100 hoops to keep USAA and you happy) real estate agent.  If you have any issues where your agent isn’t doing exactly what you need, USAA will step in and help you out!  But wait – there’s more!  They will also PAY YOU at closing, just for using their service!  So, yeah, it’s pretty much a win-win if you’re in the military.

So once we got our amazing real estate agent through USAA (if you’re looking in the Pensacola area, Bob Shell is amazing!), we needed to get prequalified for our loan.  Since we have everything else with USAA, we were a little hasty to jump on the USAA home loan bandwagon.  But, turns out, they didn’t have the best rate.  So don’t be afraid to shop around… we ended up with Navy Federal Credit Union, who gave us an amazing interest rate; I even called USAA to see if they’d match it, and they told me to take it from NFCU while it was available.  We did have one glitch later, where they changed the rate on us, but I had our promised rate in writing and they honored it for us.

A note here on loan types.  If you are active or retired military, I highly recommend looking at the VA loan that should be available to you.  The VA loan requires $0 down payment, and no mortgage insurance is required (think $500+ per year in savings over a traditional loan).  There is a funding fee, but they’ll roll that into the loan, so it won’t be due at closing (ours worked out to about 2.25% of the original loan – not too bad).  In every other way, it’s like a traditional loan – so if you qualify for it, I suggest you use it!  For us, it allowed us to keep the money we had saved for a down payment fluid, and we’ll be using it for a few renovations on the new house this spring.

So, once you are pre-approved for a loan, the fun begins!  Whether you’re moving to the other side of the state, like we did, or the other side of the country, let technology be your friend.  Radar and I both searched independently, using suggestions from our realtor and Zillow, to see if we came up with the same properties.  When we found one we both liked, we’d use Google maps to get a birds-eye view and street view of the surrounding area, to get a feel for the neighborhood – surprisingly, this eliminated a lot of homes for us!  When the time comes to physically visit houses, take pictures and videos.  Use email, Google drive, and YouTube to share what you see with your spouse – I admit, I did a terrible job with this and had to face Radar’s frustration because of it!  You may feel silly, but your agent should understand that you’re making a gigantic decision by yourself, so any way your spouse can be involved is helpful.

When it’s time to make an offer, once again the internet comes to the rescue.  Radar and I were able to sign our offer (and counter-offer, and counter to the counter-offer, and 3 rounds further) completely online.  No printing and scanning, no hassle at all – just a few clicks and we were on the way to buying our perfect house!  If you have a realtor familiar with the military lifestyle, they should be able to accommodate you.

The power of attorney was great for getting the ball rolling, but eventually the bank did need Radar’s direct approval to take out a loan in his name – it was just one piece of paper he had to sign and mail to me, basically an addendum to the POA for taking out a mortgage.  He also had to get a letter from his CO, stating that he was going to have a job in the foreseeable future to pay off said loan.  Other than that, I did everything else myself.

Come closing, I brought my original power of attorney and all the other paperwork the bank required.  I also wish I’d had a hand massager – signing closing documents for 2 people is no joke!  I had to sign for Radar with his FULL name, then add “by” my FULL name, and “power of attorney”… about 30 times.  Not even exaggerating, my hand was sore by the end of it!  But they handed me the key when I was done, and I had successfully bought a house by myself while my husband was on deployment!

On a side note, I want to give a shout out to all the spouses who survived military life before the internet.  I can’t even imagine searching for a house without Zillow and Google, traveling to a town you’ve never been to and buying a house within the same trip without GPS or smart phones, and buying a house on behalf of your spouse without email and YouTube to show him where all of his money is about to go.  Those people are a lot braver than I am!  I don’t think I could have hacked the Navy life back then – you have my utmost respect!!

So, to sum it all up, here are the basics of what I learned from buying a house while my husband was deployed:

1. Power of attorney is everything.  You can’t do anything without it (unless you are independently wealthy and don’t need your husband to co-sign the loan with you), so get it before he leaves!

2. Use the tools available to you as a military spouse: USAA Movers Advantage, VA loans, YouTube, email, digital signatures, etc.

3. You will need a couple documents from your spouse, so be sure to find out from the bank what those are early on to give enough time to get them.  And keep track of everything the bank tells you in writing – it may come in handy.


Proud owners of a new house!

If you are embarking on the homebuying journey solo, good luck!  I know you can do it, and I hope my advice helps out!

Over the Hump

Our first deployment flew by.  Monster was only 2.5 months old when Radar left, and I wasn’t as deep into crafting as I am now, and I have no idea what I did for the 6 months that he was gone, but man, did that time go fast!  This deployment is the opposite – I feel like time should be sifting through my fingers, but it is DRAGGING, despite being constantly busy with the two kids and travel all over.

Luckily for us, today marks the midpoint of deployment, so we are officially over the hump!  Those of you who are military know what this means – a reason to celebrate, because we are halfway to seeing our loved ones again!  (For our squadron, this is actually only an approximation, since they don’t all leave and return at the same time and we don’t actually know their homecoming date yet)

Today is also my 28th birthday, and it makes me reflect on what Radar is missing during this 7-month deployment.  Of course, we were heartbroken, along with the rest of the squadron, when the word came out last year that they were extending deployments from 6 to 7 months, which pushed our leaving date back (yay!) but guaranteed that they would be gone for both Thanksgiving and Christmas (boo!).  But it’s not just those big holidays that he’s missing.  Peach’s first birthday was in August, our anniversary is in November, and Radar’s birthday is just before Christmas.  Because our year is so back-loaded with family events, the only thing Radar ISN’T missing was Monster’s birthday!

(I have to pause here to show off what Radar gave me for my birthday.  I absolutely LOVE it!!)


Isn’t that an awesome ring??

I don’t mind celebrating birthdays and anniversaries alone, but it just highlights all the milestones and fun family events that he isn’t here for.  I am not complaining at all – I love our military life and I truly wouldn’t have it any other way.  But I can’t even imagine what it’s like for Radar, having his life at home essentially on pause while he goes and defends the freedoms we take for granted.  And I know that we have it good.  If he were in a different branch, or flying a different aircraft, or even in a different squadron, we wouldn’t have all the luxuries we enjoy while he’s gone, like constant email and the ability to Skype pretty regularly.  But even with modern conveniences, he will never get these 7 months back.  The best I can do is take lots of pictures (and send them in care packages!) and hug and kiss the kids enough for both Mommy and Daddy.

One thing I am looking forward to in the second half of deployment, though, is moving in January.  Radar’s orders are up about 2 weeks after he gets home, and I don’t want to spend the first month that he’s home in total chaos, so I’m planning to move right after the holidays to our new duty station in Pensacola!  We are really excited to be going there; it was our first choice.  And while some may think I’m crazy, voluntarily moving alone with 2 kids, I’m really excited to have our house pretty and settled before Radar comes home.  I plan to paint (something he will do, but I’ll have to listen to him complain about it the whole time), set up my new craft room (which hopefully will not also double as a guest room in our new house), and get us all comfy before he comes back to our new home.  It’s sort of become a running joke in our house – last deployment, I bought a car (without him knowing)… this time I’m buying a house, so he’s glad he doesn’t have a 3rd deployment this tour because I’d probably use my power of attorney to buy a small country!

So here’s to loving the kids enough for both of us.  Here’s to this crazy military life that we love.  Here’s to working hard while he’s gone so we can enjoy our lives together when he’s home.  And here’s to being Over the Hump!


My deployment survival glass 🙂

Care Package Tips

I’m working on my 3rd care package to send to Radar, and wanted to share some of the tips I’ve collected through our two deployments so far.  Some of them are common sense or very popular (especially if you’re on Pinterest), but I like to think that a couple of them are more original.  So read on to get some ideas to treat your loved one who is deployed!

One of the things Radar loves the most is keeping up-to-date with the magazines he subscribes to.  He enjoys reading his AOPA Pilot magazine, and the Family Handyman helps him as a creative outlet when he can’t have his tools – he plans all the things he’s going to build when he comes home!

Now that Monster is in school again, I also include all of his artwork from school in care packages.  Monster gets so excited to put them in Daddy’s box when he gets home from school, and I know Radar likes being connected to what’s happening at home in this way.

I’m going to pause here to say that we don’t have a typical deployment.  Radar is not in the desert, he’s not on a ship, and he’s not in a really awful place to be alone.  He’s on an Air Force base in Japan, with access to a BX and Commissary that are arguably better than what we have at home.  So it’s really a challenge sometimes to spoil him, as he has all the comforts he enjoys at home, and he doesn’t even have to deal with the screaming kids!  But having recently spent some time away from the kids (on my trip to Arizona over Peach’s birthday), I truly don’t know how he does it.  I couldn’t leave the kids for that length of time, even if I were going to a 5-star resort!  So the most important thing I include in every package I send him looks like this:


An SD card

Radar loves looking at pictures of the kids, and seeing them grow makes the separation just a little bit easier.  But sending pictures, even without frames, clutters his room and makes moves even harder (they have to vacate their rooms if they go on a detachment for more than 72 hours).  So we got a digital picture frame, and I add a new set of pictures on an SD card with every care package I send.  It’s easy to move, and he gets to feel like he’s missing just a little bit less while he’s gone.  The SD cards are cheap, and he usually gets about 100 pictures at a time!  I don’t even need to send a whole package to give him a card; I can just tuck it into a greeting card and mail it with a regular stamp to his FPO address.  It’s an easy, cheap way to keep your loved one feeling at home while they are away.

I’m not a big shopper, but when I go to Walmart or Target, I always find fun little gifts to send to Radar.  He likes the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles (the old goofy ones, not the new mean ones), and I stumbled upon an insulated coffee cup and a plastic tumbler decorated with them, so I included them with my last package.  That package also included the Michaelangelo turtle screen cleaner, so I ended up with a theme for the package.  I’ve seen all these adorable ideas on Pinterest for decorating the inside of the box.  And you know I’m crafty, but I don’t feel like taking the box apart to wrap the whole thing, or pulling out paint to attempt to make something pretty with my lack of art skills.  So I came up with a simpler (lazy-man’s) version of the cute care package.  I find images that I want to include, then print them as 5×7’s on my color printer and glue them to the flaps of the box.  The TMNT box had photos of the turtles, pizza, and the rat (I can never remember his name).  My first care package had funny flight-related memes that I found.  It’s just a little something fun that brings a little sunshine to his day, because let’s be honest – he’s a guy, and it’s what’s inside the box that he cares about!

I try to include things that he may be able to get, but would never buy for himself.  I’ll send Brookside chocolate covered fruit because I know he loves it, and it’s a nice treat.  Or I’ll get him treats at Trader Joe’s, because who doesn’t love their stuff??  I also love to include things I make, such as the fox mug I sent in his first package.  Nothing too expensive (I mean, we have a budget to stick to!) but just some little things I know he’ll enjoy.

And that’s the key to the care package.  It’s not about spending a lot of money on them, or even stuffing the box full.  It’s a reminder of home, a way to let them know that you’re thinking about them all the time, and bring a little light into those hard days away.  I can’t imagine doing what Radar does, and if I can make it a little easier for him, I’m going to!

Those are my tips for ideas to put in a care package, but I have one more secret to share.  Anyone who sends care packages internationally is oh-too-familiar with the customs form.  I don’t know about you, but I hate filling them out.  And I usually have to fill out 2 (and occasionally 3) because of the varied items I put in each box!  It’s a pain in the butt to fill out the same information every time (and often multiple times) for every package.  So now, I print labels!  As long as the information requested is on each carbon copy, the post office doesn’t care how it’s done.  The labels I found work the best are 1-1/3″x4″ (Avery makes some) – but that’s the biggest that will really fit in the little boxes.  I print a bunch at the beginning of deployment and save the Word file, so if I need more it’s super easy (each form requires 5 labels with sender and receiver).  Saves me the time and frustration of writing the same information over and over in those tiny little boxes.  You could probably even make one label with a space in the middle that includes sender and recipient information.


Obviously I printed all our info, I just didn’t feel like broadcasting our addresses over the internet!

For now, those are all my little secrets and tips for care packages.  If you have anything to share, please comment and let me know!  I’m always looking for more inspiration!


Deployment Bucket List

As I’ve mentioned before, Radar is on deployment to Japan for the second time.  One of the things I learned the first time is that even though I do a lot for the kids and for him, I need to take care of myself, too!  So this deployment, I’ve come up with a sort of “bucket list” of things I want to do while he’s gone.  For the most part, it’s things that he either doesn’t like, or single-person activities – so I can enjoy having the house to myself in the evenings after the kids go to bed!

So tonight, on a very rainy evening in Jacksonville, I’m starting on the first item on my (ever-evolving) list: re-watching (and eventually re-reading) the Harry Potter series!


The actors were babies in the first movie! And my wine glass is awesome – it says “Deployment Survival Glass,” from one of the other squadron wives 🙂

We don’t really keep popcorn in the house, so I’m enjoying these veggie straws that I bought for the kids, and, of course, a glass of wine (which may or may not be my 3rd tonight)!

Drinking Alone

This one is for all my fellow military wives out there!

So I leave you all now, to enjoy my evening with Harry Potter…. that is, if I can stay awake!

Deployment Begins

Well, it’s here… the day we all dreaded but knew was coming.  Radar left this weekend for 7 months in Japan.  Goodbye was impossible, as always, but we know we will make it.


Before the waterworks started flowing…

This is our second deployment.  In some ways, this one is going to be harder than the first.  For one thing, it’s a month longer.  The kids are older, and I’m outnumbered this time (Monster was only 2 months old when Radar left last time, and 8 months when he returned).  This will be our first Christmas apart, too, which I know will be much harder for Radar than for me.  We also know what to expect this time – we aren’t going in with blind faith, but rather with the knowledge of how hard some moments are going to be, and just how long half a year is without seeing each other.

But in other ways, this deployment will be easier.  Because his squadron transitioned from the P-3 to the P-8, we had an extra 6 months of home cycle (instead of 12 months home, we got 18).  The kids may be older and more numerous, but they’re still too young to have any concept of time or to understand how long Daddy is gone.  They’re also always on the move, so all 3 of us will stay very busy!  We’re also very lucky that in over 5 years in the Navy, this will be our first Christmas apart… and as soon as Radar comes home, we’ll be moving to a new duty station for a shore tour, which means no deployments at all!  We know several other military families who have missed more Christmases than they’ve been home for, so I’m grateful that we’re the other way around.  And lastly, we know what to expect.  I know I put that in the negative column above, but it’s reassuring knowing that we’ve done this before and know we survived.

Radar is super lucky this deployment – he is going back to the same place he was last deployment.  So he already knows the lay of the land, what to expect on base, and how the deployment will be.  He will have high-speed internet for calling us on the Magic Jack and Skyping, access to a BX and Commissary that are arguably better than what we have here in Jacksonville, and instead of being low man on the totem pole, this time he’s one of the “top dogs” among the junior officers.

I’m incredibly lucky, too – I have the best OSC (officer’s spouse’s club) ever!  This group of ladies and gents always has each others’ backs, and I know that no matter what happens to me or anyone else, we will take care of each other through these months.  My favorite part of deployment is something we call Secret Foxes: like Secret Santa, you are assigned to another spouse and get to spoil them with gifts every month during deployment (the fox part is because that’s the squadron’s mascot).  I will take any excuse to get crafty and creative!  It helps pass the time, I hope it brightens someone else’s day, and I know it brightens mine when I get a gift, knowing somebody is thinking of me.

So to kick off this deployment, I’ve made my Secret Fox (who, luckily, does not know about my blog!) a life-size greeting card full of awful puns to make her smile.


Terrible puns, right?? But I hope she’ll like it 🙂

I hot-glued the lollipops, wine, and Ziploc bags of candy to a foam board.  I didn’t want to wreck the book and Nutella, so I punched holes in the board with Radar’s awl and threaded sewing elastic through the holes, securing it with hot glue on the back.  And the Fox Racing vinyl sticker is just taped on, again so I didn’t ruin it.  I got a questionnaire with info about my secret fox, so I knew she liked wine, chocolate, and pink is her favorite color.  I’ve also seen her wearing Fox Racing gear, so I know it’s a brand she likes.  And when I saw that little book at Target, I knew I had to get it!

I’m already trying to think of what to give her in July – I just love giving somebody secret presents!  Keep an eye out for more posts with Secret Fox gifts!

(I’ll get back to the quiet book in my next post!)


This is how Radar “walked” to the plane… good to know he has good friends to make this deployment pass quickly for him too!

Deployment Wall

It’s that time for us that all military families dread: deployment is upon us.  Radar will be leaving before we know it to spend 7 months in Japan.  This is our 2nd deployment with the squadron to the same place.  Last time he went, Monster was only 2 months old… this time it’s a whole new game with a 2 year old and a 10 month old!  To help Monster and Peach remember their Daddy, and to help us all track the time as it passes, I’ve put together a “deployment wall.”

Most of the parts were pretty easy to put together, and I think it turned out pretty nice, if I do say so myself!

  • At the center is a photo collage (only $15 at Walmart) to help the little ones remember the good memories they have with Daddy.  I plan to update these pictures while he is gone with photos of him having adventures.
  • I included a clock for each country; at this time of year, they’re 12 hours apart so it seems a little silly, but after daylight savings it will be 13 hours, and when Radar goes on detachments to other countries (in other time zones) it will be nice to have that constant reminder that it’s 5am where he is, and not a good time to call!
  • Then I made a calendar that Monster and Peach will get to put a sticker on before bed every night to mark the passage of each day.  I’ll also be adding big trips and whatnot that we plan to go on, so instead of one long stretch of time, it will highlight all the fun adventures we’ll be having here!
  • And lastly, I want to keep a box going all the time for things to send to Radar, from the kids’ artwork to whatever he has requested, so nothing gets forgotten when it’s time to mail it.

So after a long explanation, here’s the finished product:

IMG_2535To make the pennant banner, I bought some burlap on a roll from Walmart.  I cut it into about 6-inch-long segments, then split each in half along the diagonal.  This didn’t quite make the isosceles triangles I wanted (yes, I’m a math and science teacher), so I cut the top so the two other sides were equal in length.  I made 12 total with this same method.  Then I got some foam stickers on sale at Joann’s during Memorial Day and used them to create patterns on the burlap.  It doesn’t matter what color they are, just that they stick temporarily.  Then I took them outside and used red and blue spray paint to color the pennants, and finally removed the stickers!  To put it all together, I used some navy blue paracord we had on hand – but any cord or string will do.  I tied a knot in each end and hot glued the pennants to the cord, then used pushpins to stick them up on the wall.  Not too hard, but gives a neat effect!

Pennant CollageI over-engineered the clocks a little… but I couldn’t help myself, I’m a perfectionist!  The clocks are just the cheapies from Walmart.  I used my Silhouette to cut out the flags with a little hole in the center (for the part that holds the arms) and a slit (to get it onto the clock).  I used the registration marks feature on the Silhouette software to make each flag perfect (I’ll post a tutorial on doing this at a later time – in the meantime, there are tons of resources out there to help you try it out!).  Each clock had some screws on the back that allowed me to pull of the glass to add my flags.  You can find the Silhouette file here.

Clock CollageFor the poster, I downloaded a simple pdf calendar for the date range I needed here.  I printed it at 50% and glued it onto a posterboard.  I used the BodieMF Flag font for the poster heading.  For the mail sign, I used the KG Uncle Sam font.

Poster CollageAnd that’s it!  Just FYI, USPS offers these large flat rate boxes that are especially for APO/FPO addresses… a regular one will work, but it’s nice to have one that’s easy to fill out!  And don’t forget your customs form!

IMG_2541I found a ton of other deployment wall ideas online; check out my Military Life board on Pinterest for more inspiration, from care packages to general information.

One more thing I want to add before I sign off, is you need to consider your kids.   One of the other wives in our squadron recently pointed out that for older kids, being constantly reminded that Daddy (or Mommy) is gone can be detrimental, despite your good intentions.  Because my kids are so young, I am going to be working hard to help them remember Daddy; also, time passes without quantity for them, so they don’t remember whether it’s been 1 month or 6 since he left.  While a deployment wall may be great for you, it may make things harder for your children – so just do what works for your family!

If you are part of a military family, I hope your deployments pass quickly and safely!!